It is funny that you say some find it to be a submissive trait that you would want to pay for things. It reminds me of a Dom I knew who didn’t like the thought of his sub cooking and cleaning for him. He felt like as a Dom, he could care for himself and didn’t need that. It is interesting what some consider to be submissive behavior.
I am very old-school, like I said. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE 1950s household! I thoroughly enjoy being home taking care of the cooking and cleaning. I would enjoy running errands for my Dom and making sure I was in my dress, heels and looking super cute for when he came home. Mmmm, it makes me smile to think of it.
As an educated woman who has held management positions, it took me A LONG TIME (hell, I still struggle with it) to admit to myself that wanting that was okay. It is difficult to admit it to myself some days as in our modern-day society it comes across as a personality flaw.
When People Say They're Into Rough Sex
Normal People: Hair-pulling, spanking, ass-grabbing, maybe some light scratches.
Me: Choke me, make my back bleed, bite my earlobes/lip until they're swollen and peeling days later, leave giant hickeys on my neck, chest, and collarbones.
*cough*
“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling all that I am capable of doing but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.” - Anais Nin
